I understand deeply what you are sharing here. Type A here as well hehe..Thank you for sharing. Last year took me through a very similar journey and on the other side I found that detachment really is the way to go in every thing that we do.
Performing through existence trying to prove our worth is ingrained in us black women and it is such a heavy burden to carry. I realized that while this is ingrained in us, a lot of it also is self inflicted.
Last year I allowed myself to say things like “ I’m tired, I want to rest”, “I don’t want to do this”, “I need help here” etc.. and to my surprise as you said the world did not end. I felt my surroundings bend more to what I wanted than ever before.
The strong black woman archetype is something that I put down last year, it comes with so much anger, resentment, struggle, and lack of playfulness..please I am a damsel in distress, and life has been so much lighter and less serious.
I wish you the best this year and I wish for you to simply be in this world. That alone is priceless, and no amount of “doing” will ever add to or take away from that truth.
The inner worlds of Black women are so dynamic, layered, and rich. I love it, but there are definitely parts of being a racialized woman that I am leaving in 2025.
I also agree that putting down the performance of strength really opened the world up to me by allowing my people to really support and love me. This was how I moved closer to a more loving and kind life for myself and those around me.
You’ll figure it out! More time at Hideaway may be needed!
Thank you!
Hideaway would be great right now! Love that place. 🫶
I understand deeply what you are sharing here. Type A here as well hehe..Thank you for sharing. Last year took me through a very similar journey and on the other side I found that detachment really is the way to go in every thing that we do.
Performing through existence trying to prove our worth is ingrained in us black women and it is such a heavy burden to carry. I realized that while this is ingrained in us, a lot of it also is self inflicted.
Last year I allowed myself to say things like “ I’m tired, I want to rest”, “I don’t want to do this”, “I need help here” etc.. and to my surprise as you said the world did not end. I felt my surroundings bend more to what I wanted than ever before.
The strong black woman archetype is something that I put down last year, it comes with so much anger, resentment, struggle, and lack of playfulness..please I am a damsel in distress, and life has been so much lighter and less serious.
I wish you the best this year and I wish for you to simply be in this world. That alone is priceless, and no amount of “doing” will ever add to or take away from that truth.
Omg Elenora, thanks so much for sharing.
The inner worlds of Black women are so dynamic, layered, and rich. I love it, but there are definitely parts of being a racialized woman that I am leaving in 2025.
I also agree that putting down the performance of strength really opened the world up to me by allowing my people to really support and love me. This was how I moved closer to a more loving and kind life for myself and those around me.