Why Change Feels So Hard

Before we get into today’s reflection, a quick note:

🌿 Coming September 3rd: Growing ‘n Musing’s Wellness Toolkit

It’s a digital guide to help you move through the real process of change emotionally, mentally, and practically.

But before it launches, I’d love your voice in it.

👉 [Take this 3-question survey] Your responses will help shape the final version, and you’ll be the first to know when it’s ready.

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Now, back to why change can feel so heavy. Let’s begin with a poem.

Today’s poem is not my own, but it’s one I return to when doubt whispers louder than resolve. When I need a nudge to begin, even when it feels impossible.

It Couldn’t Be Done

by Edgar Albert Guest

—🎧 Listen to the poem above 🎧—

Somebody said that it couldn’t be done

But he with a chuckle replied

That “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one

Who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.

So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin

On his face. If he worried he hid it.

He started to sing as he tackled the thing

That couldn’t be done, and he did it!


Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that;

At least no one ever has done it;”

But he took off his coat and he took off his hat

And the first thing we knew he’d begun it.

With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,

Without any doubting or quiddit,

He started to sing as he tackled the thing

That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,

There are thousands to prophesy failure,

There are thousands to point out to you one by one,

The dangers that wait to assail you.

But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,

Just take off your coat and go to it;

Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing

That “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it.

My first summit hike this year… outside Oslo, Norway

In Today’s Episode

—🎧 Listen above 🎧—

Most people don’t actually want change.
They want the results of change:

• Peace, without boundaries.

• Success, without failure.

• Growth, without discomfort.

• Relief, without doing differently.

But true change asks for more:
It demands that you become the kind of person who lives it.

Change isn’t dreaming.
It’s not planning.
It’s action—and often uncomfortable.

It requires honesty.
It asks you to notice your patterns, your coping mechanisms, and your comfort zones.

Real change begins when you stop waiting for “perfect timing” and instead take one small, honest step.
Slowly. Imperfectly. Purposefully.

Change doesn’t wait for ideal conditions.
It begins with courage—and the willingness to try, even when the path ahead is uncertain.

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I’ve talked about creating a wellness toolkit here since the beginning of Growing ‘n Musing.
Now, two years in, I’m finally taking the steps to share it, to get it into the hands of those who need it.

Those two years were the difference between wanting change and creating it.

And truthfully? I’m proud of where I am now.
I’m proud I allowed it to unfold the way it needed to.
Because over those two years, I gathered lessons and wisdom that made this toolkit stronger.
So, no regrets. Just growth.

Here’s to your journey, too.
Wherever you are in the process—whether beginning, in between, or starting again—
May it be this, or something better. 🥂

—Kellion

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In case you missed it, check out this newsletter’s last post: I Dreamed of Olympic Gold, but…